This book has lots of little vinette stories from Rhonda’s life and others’. I found the “Fearbuster” exercises to be the most valuable part of book.
Here are some examples of the exercises and principles, with my opinions interspersed:
- Identify your wheel of fear – know what triggers fear for you, what your typical fear response is, the negative feeling it creates and the self-destructive behavior you go into.
- Identify your Wheel of Freedom – what is your essential nature, what proactive behavior is in alignment with your essential nature, how you can feel wholeness, and self-affirming behavior that results.
- Know the types of “fear junkies” that encourage you to stay in your wheel of fear and how to respond to them.
[I'd add knowing what your monkey mind often says so you can deal with the fear junkie inside, but I guess that's where Rhonda uses the "wheel of fear" concept instead]
- Create a “Fearbuster Team” with different types of support to deal with your fears.
[Yes! I think it's great to have several types of support for your journey - friends, family, pets, men, women, coaches, mentors, etc. The more options you have, the more likely you can get just the kind of support you need in a given moment.]
- Identify where you have expectations that lead to blaming others or yourself. Turn your expectations into powerful intentions instead. Learn the basics of the powerful language of intentions.
- Use Forgiveness rituals to release the past
[The rituals in here were good, but I don't think they were not as effective as the Radical Forgiveness process - my new favorite]
- Create a “Life Log” to track your time so you can focus on what is really a priority for you
[I've done logs like this before and they are valuable for setting priorities and seeing a big picture of how those priorities are playing out. My only caution is to not get too persnickety about it ... it's just to give you a bigger picture after all.]
- Turn complaining into venting and gratitude [YAY!]
- Turn beating yourself up into receiving compliments from others and acknowledging yourself
[This would be along the lines of having a good response to your monkey mind - we all have one!]
- The RISK acronym can help you remember how to live fearlessly:
Release your attachment to the outcome,
Invest fully in your (positive) intention,
Stand for the truth (gratitude),
Keep kindness a priority (especially to yourself)
All in all, it’s a good book for your library if just to review the exercises in it … it’s in my library now.